I am a single mother of three incredible daughters. However, two babies daddies later LOL... For a moment I allowed the thought of being damaged goods to enter my mind. I truly believed that no “good man” would ever love me, considering what I would instantly bring into his life. I am just now honoring what a prize any man would be receiving, having us elevate his life with love and 4 beautiful women he would inherit.
We are all the inheritance of the Most High. When we see ourselves as the prize, when we throw away all of those negative thoughts we bring mostly on to ourselves. All of life’s beautiful possibilities began to reveal themselves.
I had to change my mindset about myself because I was done with swimming in the pool of self pity and doubt. I was ready to change my life so that I could give myself and my daughters a beautiful reality. I started to realize what you think is what you attract, my self doubt drew me to others with the same mindset and it’s impossible to elevate if your stuck in a heavy mindset.
So how am I doing it ? Once I made the commitment to myself to reach the highest of positive vibrations, I needed to first cleans everyone and everything that didn’t grow me or wasn’t in line with self progression. I quickly began to lose self serving relationships both personally and professionally and grew clarity and closure about those relationships. I saw a clearing of who was meant to journey on with me and be in a better position to add value to and water those relationships.
I started doing the work with in myself and quickly learned the true meaning of self care. It isn’t salt baths and massages. It’s not just about the outward appearance it’s about looking inward acknowledging what you really need to work on and doing just that the self work.
Step One Meditation & Self Reflection:
My journey with meditation was so hard at first, finding time to just be still was damn near impossible with 5 year old twins. But I was committed to it and every day I sit still with the most high for 45 to and hour.
Step Two: Feed your mind:
I read up to two books at a time about where I want to be! In my case seeking God presence, real estate news and fashion everything is what I’ve been most focused on.
Step Three: Focus on your goals and plan to execute them:
I write a StyleGunn todo list every day and every day I cross something off. I believe you plant seeds every time you set a goal be it short term or long, you will slowly watch those seeds you’ve been planting grow into success.
Step Four: Find the good in goodbye
Trust the natural clearing this journey causes. It is never easy when a relationship ends but if that relationship is toxic it’s meant to do just that END! Instead of harping or mourning over it trust that ending was for your good. Once you can see the positive outcome in that ending you can embrace all the abundance that’s is coming your way.
Step Five: Be consistent
Staying the course on this amazing life journey is how you’re going to reach a level of success you could only dream of. What you pour into your life is what you will get out of it. In any journey be it weight loss or building a positive mindset. It takes consistency, meaning pushing through those days when your too tired to blink, or finding time to work on your business even when one child is sick and the other has a project and one has soccer practice. Finding those tiny moments to plant small seeds of grow in you’re life and business is what makes all the difference. Do more than most because, you want more than most!